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Who do you love?


Today is my 14th wedding anniversary.

It’s also the wedding date of one of my law school roommates, the wedding anniversary of a friend from my teen years (who proposed one summer evening in Maine after hearing my husband and I talk about the odyssey that is marriage and parenthood) and the birthday of a close friend’s son.

When people find out that some milestone is occurring they often ask, What are you going to do? What did you get your husband, what did he get you?

But what I notice, what I hear the most, what strikes me every time, any time someone comments about a wedding anniversary, is how they treat the number of years you’ve been married.

So far, the “wows” have it – as in “Wow, that’s a long time” or “Wow! Good for you!”

The thing is, my parents have been married over 47 years, my in-laws have been married over 45 years. When exactly did 14 years become a long time to be married?

Not that I don’t think 14 years is a long time to be married. All depends on who you’re married to.

Naw – that’s not really what I think.

But it’s like so many other passages: it seems like I just gave birth to my almost twelve year old, and yet there’s so much about his early years that I no longer remember.

Likewise, I remember how my husband courted me as though it happened yesterday.

And yet, sometimes, those days seem like they are a lifetime away.

To answer the questions in this post:

My husband, my kids, my family, my life.
We’re having dinner at Three Birds (never been there)
I have no idea, but I hope it’s not flannel pajamas
Ralph Lauren “Purple,” a set of Bordeaux wine glasses, two ties and two pairs of socks (it’s still the fourth night of Chanuka)

I’ll close with one of my favorite quotes about love:

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Chappy Fourth Night of Chanuka.

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By Jill Miller Zimon at 5:02 pm December 28th, 2005 in Politics 

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17 Responses to “Who do you love?”

  1. 1 Jeff Hess on December 28th, 2005 6:09 pm

    Shalom Jill,

    Mazel tov!

    B’shalom,

    Jef

  2. 2 John Ettorre on December 28th, 2005 11:52 pm

    Happy anniversary, Jill. And if people think 14 years is a long time to be married, it only means they’re youngsters, that’s all.

  3. 3 Lori on December 29th, 2005 12:05 am

    Congratulations, and best wishes for many more happy years together.

  4. 4 Jill on December 29th, 2005 9:59 am

    Thanks for the wishes. I love being proven wrong, and can’t wait to post a picture of what my husband gave me.

    AND…I got the cologne wrong – he wanted Black. I have, of course, convinced him that Purple is much more appropriate to his scent.

    Three Birds was lovely. Didn’t like the figs in my cannoli, but otherwise, the service and food rated tops.

  5. 5 Francine on December 29th, 2005 1:21 pm

    Happy Anniversay Jill – WOW You remebered my wedding anniversay!! (Law School Roommate)

    Len and I went to a nice resturant and talked about how lucky we are to have a beautiful son. (Nick age 10 months).

    Funny how even 3 years seems like a lifetime – but I guess it is — a new lifetime.

  6. 6 Jill on December 29th, 2005 1:31 pm

    How could I forget, my dear!? Give that lovely kid of yours a smooch and a pinch for me. And hi to Len to, of course.

    I can’t believe you’re reading my blog. Sheesh, another person I can’t talk about. :)

  7. 7 Francine on December 29th, 2005 1:37 pm

    Talk away my dear – You know you really do write like you talk.

  8. 8 Jill on December 29th, 2005 1:41 pm

    You, certainly, can speak to that! Hmm, I have to rummage for some good Francine stories!

  9. 9 Henry on December 29th, 2005 3:40 pm

    Congrats, Jill!

  10. 10 Ray Wong on December 29th, 2005 3:42 pm

    Happy Anniversary.

  11. 11 Jill on December 29th, 2005 3:45 pm

    Thanks so much! Check back in another 14. ;)

  12. 12 The Full Cleveland on December 29th, 2005 10:37 pm

    I’ll soon be celebrating my 18th wedding anniversary (Jan. 2), so we’ve traveled comparable roads. The journey thus far makes me excited for the road ahead. Congratulations. ~Jim

  13. 13 Jill on December 29th, 2005 10:43 pm

    Great, Jim! One of my best friends from childhood celebrated her 20th this past summer, that’s the longest of any of my close friends. But I would say that 18 is practically 20.

    Enjoy. When it works, which is, at this point, more often than not for us, it feels like we’re the luckiest people on earth.

  14. 14 Frank on December 30th, 2005 2:45 pm

    14 years! Great!

    I was once married for 12.

    And then I was married for 8.

    But never for 14 to the same person.

    Mazel Tov!

  15. 15 Jill on December 30th, 2005 3:02 pm

    Thanks, Frank! And happy new year to you.

  16. 16 Wendy Hoke on January 4th, 2006 3:05 pm

    Love the quote, Jill! It is kissably perfect! Happy belated anniversary from another married for 14 years!

  17. 17 Jill on January 5th, 2006 1:14 pm

    Thanks, Wendy! Wait til you see what he gave me. I’m going to take a digital pic of it and post it. Really really shocked me.

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