As if we needed any more evidence as to why the Civic Commons wants its users to agree to be “civil” before engaging online, a Columbus Dispatch editorial declared last week, in regard to a social media incident involving the state Board of Education president, “This H-bomb is a dud: Invoking Hitler is unlikely to be a winning political strategy” and a highly regarded expert on online politicking likewise wrote of the same incident, “…dropping the H-bomb pretty much destroys the intellectual credibility of the dropper…”. That H-bomb, and many other words and utterances of name-calling, are the nuclear bomb equivalents of destroying any chance for meaningful, useful dialogue. And that is the opposite of what the Civic Commons seeks to promote.
Of course, linguistic laziness in unpacking and examining controversial topics isn’t committed solely by people in the poltiical arena. Last year, a food industry CEO apologized for comparing President Obama’s health care reform efforts to fascism because, as he admitted, the word “fascism” has “…so much baggage attached to it.” He went on to say that he thinks we need a new word to describe what he sees as the country, “…no longer hav[ing] free-enterprise capitalism in health care…[because t]he government is directing it.
Read the full post here.
When will we see that headline? Because I saw the one I describe at the end of this sentence over an AP story in the Plain Dealer today and countless variations are all over the place regarding Marissa Mayer’s ascension at Yahoo. This is what we call pure unadultered linkbait: “All eyes on Yahoo’s mom-to-be chief exec.”
Really? Really? As if we will ever see, “All eyes on Yahoo’s dad-to-be chief exec.” Please.
MarketWatch had it right: Wall Street to Yahoo’s Mayer: Why Bother? or some other variation of the mammoth challenge related to her…JOB. Even an article discussing what should be disclosed is acceptable. But seriously. From now on, media? When a guy ascends to the top of a Fortune 500 company, you better run several graphs if not entire articles about the man’s obligations and circumstances outside of the C-suite. This is just ridiculous.
You don’t have to have seen any of the media coverage of Anne-Marie Slaughter’s The Atlantic cover story to know about her story – because her story is just one of hundreds of millions. Don’t let the privilege in her life fool you either about the real underlying issue: women and men want fulfillment and to feel fulfilled in their lives. What must change to achieve any of that, for any of us, anywhere along the socio-economic spectrum? Fulfillment should not be reserved for those who can buy it.
Some reading to get you up to speed on this evergreen but maybe ever more pressing issue as younger generations demand answers:
For an historical perspective and in honor of Nora Ephron, her 1996 Wellesley commencement speech in which she absolutely addresses these issues
The Atlantic: 1% Wives Are Helping Kill Feminism and Make the War on Women Possible (this is the piece that got the recent round started)
The Atlantic: Why Women Still Can’t Have It All (the Anne-Marie Slaughter piece)
The New York Times on the AMS piece: Elite Women Put a New Spin on an Old Debate
Rebecca Traister at Salon.com on Slaughter: Can modern women “have it all”?
Diane Rehm spent an hour on this on Monday (June 25, 2012) (there’s a transcript and a podcast)
And on Sound of Ideas, also on Monday (6/25/12) at the 9:45 mark, the Women of Note panel gets into the subject too
Women’s Media Center: Having it all? The Wrong Question for Most Women
The New York Times Magazine profiles filmmaker Miranda July-and that’s a good thing. But the teaser on the mag’s cover is, “She is one of the most talented filmmakers if her generation. She is one of the most aggravating filmmakers of her generation. Could both of these statements be true?”
You are kidding me, right? Since when don’t those two qualities go together in stand-out personalities, maybe especially those with talent?
I can’t say I blame them, but I also have to say that they’ve turned me toward local blogs I’ve never heard of before. Many thanks to Fresh Water Cleveland, whose managing editor is Douglas Trattner, known to locals and regionals from his many years of writing about NE Ohio.
I only came to know of Fresh Water because I saw their URL in my site traffic information, so I tracked back to it and tabbed it as something to look at this week (this crazy busy week). Then, before I could do that, I saw it in my traffic again today – but this post, “they heart cle: a city’s biggest fans are often the bloggers,” was why! I’m really pleased to be mentioned, and I’m more pleased to read about area blogs I didn’t know about. And I also love that it is a positive look at how blogs enrich our region. Thank you, very much.
Here’s the review of WLST (after the jump): Read more
Based on the notoriously sexist way in which the media portray women, and spurred on by the roles of Hillary Clinton and Sarah Palin in the 2008 election, the film “Miss Representation” is coming.
Writer/Director Jennifer Siebel Newsom brings together some of America’s most influential women in politics, news, and entertainment to give us an inside look at the media’s message. Miss Representation explores women’s under-representation in positions of power by challenging the limited and often disparaging portrayal of women in the media. As one of the most persuasive and pervasive forces in our culture, media is educating yet another generation that women’s primary value lies in their youth, beauty and sexuality—not in their capacity as leaders. Through the riveting perspectives of youth and the critical analysis of top scholars, Miss Representation will change the way you see media.
If you’re not interested in this film, then you’re not remotely interested in our future – especially not the future of your daughter, your wife, your sister, or the women responsible for giving birth to you.
I’ve got Notes on Love and Courage on my nighttable (lower shelf but it’s still there). I’m not sure where my Notes to Myself copy is – but I’ve had these books for decades. Ah yes – growing up in the era of Leo Busclagia et al – very different than growing up in the era of reality shows depicting in a far more forced and edited style what Prather and Busclaglia wrote about (i.e., The Bachelorette and The Bachelor). Hmm – or is it?
This section from the NYT obit on Prather made me laugh – having lived through it first-hand too:
“Notes to Myself” was spoofed by the comedy writer Jack Handey as a set of public musings known as “Deep Thoughts.” First published in National Lampoon, “Deep Thoughts” became a recurring feature on “Saturday Night Live” in the 1990s and was released as a series of books. Among Mr. Handey’s observations are these:
¶“If I ever get real rich, I hope I’m not real mean to poor people, like I am now.”
¶“I can picture in my mind a world without war, a world without hate. And I can picture us attacking that world, because they’d never expect it.”
¶“If you lose your job, your marriage and your mind all in one week, try to lose your mind first, because then the other stuff won’t matter that much.”
RIP, Hugh Prather. I cannot believe he was 72.
Recently, Brazen Careerist founder, Penelope Trunk, wrote a blog post that unleashed a torrent of diverse and sharply divided opinions about women’s career pursuits in comparison with men’s in the tech start-up world. In Women Don’t Want To Run Startups Because They’d Rather Have Children, she described what she sees as the incompatibility of the mandatory amount of time and energy required for pushing a tech start-up with raising kids. And then, she tied up this incompatibility to why women don’t get funding:
Startups move at breakneck pace, under a lot of pressure to succeed bigger and faster than any normal company. And women don’t want to give up their personal life in exchange for the chance to be the next Google. Or even the next Feedburner. Which is why the number of women who pitch is so small, and, therefore, the number of women who get funding is small.
And I’m not even going to go into the idea of women having a startup with young kids. It is absolutely untenable. The women I know who do this have lost their companies or their marriages or both. And there is no woman running a startup with young kids, who, behind closed doors, would recommend this life to anyone. For men it’s different.
After just over two weeks, the post has nearly 500 comments — and they run the gamut. It a fascinating, infuriating and enlightening thread. But is it empowering?
For that, we turn to a New York Times column by Gloria Feldt, “Where Is the Female Steve Jobs?”, that was published just before Trunk’s post. In her piece, Feldt, a long-time advocate for women’s rights and most recently the author of No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think about Power, says:
Read the rest of this post and join the conversation here.
By Jill Miller Zimon at 9:22 am October 28th, 2010 in Business, Culture, democracy, Education, employment, Gender, intolerance, leadership, Politics, Sexism, Social Issues, social media, Women, Writing | Comments Off
From Sunday’s New York Times Magazine’s Questions for Stacy Schiff:
What hidden details should we know about you?
I have three children, each of whom is having an idyllic childhood, probably because I have been at the office the entire time.
Did your children celebrate when you won the Pulitzer Prize in biography, in 2000?
Yes, they understood I had won a big award for typing.
[Schiff is a biographer whose forthcoming book about Cleopatra is rumored to be drawing rumors that a movie version would be directed by James Cameron and staring Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt - no, really]
How to make a strong female character for your show. Definitely enlarge the image.
Some of you may recall that I mentioned how even though I’m not yet 50, I got a call from a writer who was working on a story about women in the “around 50″ or older age range for an AARP Magazine story. Turns out that my relative youth (I was 47 at the time) was not what disqualified me (I think I aged just thinking about that) but rather the fact that I’ve already been elected is what excluded me. The writer wanted to focus on women running for the very first time in this 2010 cycle.
The article, “The New Face of Politics: The U.S. lags behind the world when electing women to office. Is that about to change?” appears in the November/December 2010 issue. I haven’t read it yet but did enjoy speaking with the writer who, by the way, collaborated on Staying True with Jenny Sanford.
Better than five old white guys for sure.
Now, if only we could do better with the guests:
14 slots total. 11 men (on is showing up on two shows) and 2 women. Yeah. No.
The media’s focus has been on the symbolism of saying the words “I’m sorry,” as if that single utterance means everything and is the only thing. In today’s soundbite world that clamors to satisfy the hunger of news consumers, the media pushes the meme that the words “I’m sorry” alone are the end of the story. Some examples:
This post by Lauren Frayer is about a BP gaffe that was made during an apology for the oil spill. The BP executive then had to apologize for the blown apology about being sorry … for the oil spill. Again — what was the focus? It was on just spitting out the apology.
And even with sincere, appreciated words of contrition, such as UK Prime Minister David Cameron’s words about Bloody Sunday, the obsession is with how to say an apology and that not enough people give apologies.
I’m going to be a complete contrarian here: we have to stop focusing on who is asking for apologies and who is giving (or not giving) apologies. Instead, we need to focus on what people are doing after they give their apology. Because it is that behavior that matters. Period. Read more
Haveil Havalim #275: The “I’m so busy that putting together this blog carnival is actually what substitutes for taking a break” Edition
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Welcome to this week’s edition of Haveil Havalim #275: The “I’m so busy that putting together this blog carnival is actually what substitutes for taking a break” Edition.
Founded by Soccer Dad, Haveil Havalim is a carnival of Jewish blogs — a weekly collection of Jewish and Israeli blog highlights, tidbits and points of interest collected from blogs all around the world. It’s hosted by different bloggers each week and coordinated by the formidable Jack.
No enthusiastic experiments this week like last week’s edition, but I’ll see what I can do to keep it flowing:
Batya presents If I Were To Wear A Wig… posted at me-ander. Side-note: my daughter is into anime/manga and desperately wanted to wear her character’s wig. Did not work out so well, but maybe if I wore one, she’d have been conditioned? FYI, here’s a fascinating post on Jews in Anime and Manga.
Izgad offers a book review in An Anthropologist Does ArtScroll: A Review of Orthodox by Design posted at Izgad.
Mordechai Torczyner speculates in Why does Cleveland hate LeBron James? posted at The Rebbetzin’s Husband. But I can tell you, having just driven past the famous “Witness” wall last night on my way to a friend’s 40th birthday party in downtown Cleveland that, as a parent, LeBron’s decision just sends a bad message – if it doesn’t have to be about money, then it can be about winning. And that seems to make it not be about life.
Shira sounds a theme I’ve read in other posts regarding Segregation in Israeli Schools Today posted at Table Poetry. It’s posts like this one and Mottel’s that make me ache for us to have ever-larger audiences though, so the nuances of such situations can be known and acknowledged.
Joel Katz’s weekly podcasts can be listened to here, Religion and State in Israel – July 5, 2010 (Section 1) and here, Religion and State in Israel – July 5, 2010 (Section 2) (both posted at Religion and State in Israel).
Finally, Harry looks at just how frequently all-things-Israel get mentioned in How Kagan’s hearing turned into an Israeli focus, you know where it’s posted.
Batya highlights PM Binyamin Netanyahu and Larry King “Fencing” Around The Chess Board complete with video and a link to the show’s transcript, posted at Shiloh Musings.
Batya argues, “It’s not enough to feel the spirit” in Torah Judaism, Is It Enough to Be Spiritual Without Keeping The Laws? posted at Shiloh Musings. A very provocative topic indeed.
(I love the name of this blog): Homeshuling presents What’s Jewish about competitive eating? – Homeshuling posted at Home-shuling.
Mottel’s lengthy but absolutely worth the full-read, A Fire Burns in Crown Heights: An Essay on Religion, Modernity and Pizza, has implications, imo, for all kinds of situations, religious and non. It’s posted at Letters of Thought.
Kissmeimshomer examines religion and happiness in Killing Babies and Understanding Brad Pitt’s Depression at Kissmeimshomer.
Ben-Yehudah gives some technical advice with illustrative illustrations in Do You Pay Attention To The Google Ads On Your Site? posted at Esser Agaroth.
I don’t know whether or not I’d recommend this to someone consider being a rabbi but Mordechai Torczyner’s entry, Why Rabbis Stop Believing, posted at The Rebbetzin’s Husband, sure raises a lot of good conversation points.
The title of Joshua Waxman’s entry faked me out so it’s a good thing he included what category Anisakis worms and peshat in Kukyanei, according to Rashi and Rabbenu Tam belonged to (posted at parshablog).
The title of Chaviva’s entry, Once Upon a Time, I Was Agnostic. posted at Just call me Chaviva, reminds me of when I was a freshman at Georgetown and we had to pick a second mandatory theology class (the one all frosh have to take is called The Problem of God), and I first encountered the word, “gnosticism.”
I can’t even pretend I know what he’s talking about given my insufficient education in this area, but I bet a lot of you will enjoy Joshua Waxman’s Demonic messages between Sura and Pumbedita, posted at parshablog.
That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of Haveil Havalim using the carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on the blog carnival index page.
Thank you all for your submissions – they make me sad for all the time I have not had or made to read and keep up on often gripping and always real thoughts on these subjects.
By Jill Miller Zimon at 11:20 am July 11th, 2010 in anti-semitism, Barack Obama, Civil Rights, conservatives, Culture, democracy, Education, Foreign Affairs, Gaza, George Bush, Government, Holidays, intolerance, Israel, Jewish, Judaism, leadership, Military, palestinians, peace, Politics, Recipes, Religion, Sexism, Social Issues, Sports, war, Women, Writing, Youth | 13 Comments
Filed Under Abortion, activism, Business, Campaigning, Civil Rights, conservatives, Courts, Culture, democracy, Economy, Elections, employment, Ethics, Gender, Government, Health Care, intolerance, Law, leadership, marriage, Parenting, Politics, Republicans, Sarah Palin, Sexism, Social Issues, Women, Youth | 1 Comment
As you can see from the comments this post has generated at The Moderate Voice, there’s a lot of whining about how business would suffer if they cared about pregnant women, about how pregnant women shouldn’t be treated differently from anyone else with a need to take leave and how pregnant women don’t deserve to be in any special class that would get privileges no one else would get.
I can’t make the forest for the trees view of this any clearer than I do below:
1. The United States is a developed country that uses and abuses its female workforce based on the fact that they’re female and are the only ones who can get pregnant. I think that’s abhorrent and developed countries can and should do better, even within the context of business. Successful corporations do it all the time and here’s one list to get you started. Furthermore, from that article, emphasis mine:
The bottom line is that your direct supervisor, specific job and work group will have a tremendous impact on whether you truly are able to benefit from the work-life balance policies in your employee manual. But at the least, having those policies on the books is a first step. I’m glad Working Mother is doing the hard work of evaluating these companies and calling attention to the need for family-friendly benefits.
Look at the stark contrast between companies on the list and national averages. Only 16 percent of U.S. companies offer job sharing, versus 98 percent of the Best Companies. One quarter nationally provide health insurance to part-time workers, versus 99 percent of the 100 Best, according to Working Mother.
2. There is no place in our lexicon for saying that a person is pro-woman but that being pro-women excludes fighting for workplace policies that allow all women, not just the married or wealthy ones, to make the same choices without penalties – such as losing your job because you’re pregnant, a penalty men will never face. If there is information that supports that that is in fact a penalty men face, I would support crafting workplace policies that eliminate that penalty.
3. Political candidates who classify themselves or allow others to classify them as conservative feminists (aka “Mama Grizzlies”) need to demonstrate what that means. Few people would argue that there is great confusion as to how that is operationalized in real life. Being labeled something is one thing – showing what you do and what policies you support then fills out the definition of who fulfills that label.
4. I want to know how the conservative feminists (a term for which it’s nearly impossible to find a definition) and Mama Grizzlies respond to workplace policies that clearly do not support families, do not support women, do not support children.
That’s it. Really not complicated at all. Looking forward to the responses.
By Jill Miller Zimon at 10:18 am June 24th, 2010 in Abortion, activism, Business, Campaigning, Civil Rights, conservatives, Courts, Culture, democracy, Economy, Elections, employment, Ethics, Gender, Government, Health Care, intolerance, Law, leadership, marriage, Parenting, Politics, Republicans, Sarah Palin, Sexism, Social Issues, Women, Youth | 1 Comment
Take a look at the Plain Dealer’s Metro section today, page B3. Here are the headlines:
Brooklyn ex-mayor pleads not guilty in 2008 case [charges involve assaulting a woman at City Hall while the ex-mayor was drunk]
Crash: Community staggered by teenagers’ deaths [car crash involving 3 teens including one - who crashed into a car pulling out of a driveway - who has admitted driving with a broken speedometer on a classic Mustang]
What are people thinking?
Devastating. Just absolutely tears rolling down my cheeks red with anger devastating.
We have failed to inculcate that there were laws to protect animals before there were laws to protect kids and that being a parent involves undertaking the single most grave responsibility there is in this life: raising another human being.
*TO BE CLEAR: It’s not the PD’s fault that people are committing these acts. Yes, they choose the news we end up reading, but “but for” people being behind these acts, there wouldn’t be any of this to report. Frankly, if I thought it would keep one person from hurting another and protect one person from being hurt, I’d tell the PD to fill an entire day’s edition full of these stories until people rid themselves of every tool of anger, rage, intolerance and lack of a conscience. If we don’t trust that we can make an argument with words to persuade others, I refuse to accept that using violence will reach any preferable result.
By Jill Miller Zimon at 8:26 am April 30th, 2010 in Civil Rights, Crime, Culture, Education, Ethics, Health Care, Illness, intolerance, Law, leadership, Mental health, Parenting, peace, Sexism, Social Issues, Women, Youth | 1 Comment
On one thing, Mr. Gates, Admiral Mullen and Republicans on the committee agreed: many gay men and lesbians are serving honorably and effectively in the military today, despite a policy that has led to more than 13,000 discharges, including those of much-needed Arabic translators.
“I have served with homosexuals since 1968,” Admiral Mullen told the committee. He added, “Everybody in the military has, and we understand that.”
That such an obvious reality must be stated by a top command figure before it can be heard, even by those who have served with gay men and women in the military, demonstrates the ridiculous level of denial that some elected members of our government, and the voters who vote them in, have in regard to the way things are in 2010 – and, as Mullen says, have been for more than 40 years.
If a male attorney general and former prosecutor were running against a woman who’d posed nude for Cosmopolitan magazine and whose law practice consisted mainly of real estate closings, would he be the one praying for a squeaker victory? Would she have even gotten elected to the state senate?
No and no, are the probable answers. But it is an illustration of the kind of double standard voters apply to women candidates – a double standard that some long-time women’s advocates see in the success of Republican Scott Brown, whose college-aged centerfold and lesser professional success hasn’t gotten in the way of his chances of capturing Ted Kennedy’s old Senate seat from the Democrats.
But it goes beyond that, to the very top – and Ohio is not immune: Read more
By Jill Miller Zimon at 8:00 pm January 19th, 2010 in Campaigning, Culture, Elections, Gender, Government, Hillary Clinton, Jennifer Brunner, leadership, Ohio, Politics, Sexism, Social Issues, Voting, Women | Comments Off
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No one gets away with dissing social workers and me not blogging about it. Thank you, Modern Esquire, for the heads up. The fact that I’m also a lawyer and an elected official just further incenses me over this incident that exposes enormous ignorance on the part of the Ohio Republican Party Chair, Kevin DeWine.
According to an item by Bill Hershey (one of my all-time favorite Ohio newspeople), DeWine appears to harbor unpacked anger toward people in the mental health professions who are also lawyers and elected Franklin County judges, though not actually social workers, even though he seems to think they are, and African-American and female and under 50: Read more
By Jill Miller Zimon at 10:01 am January 19th, 2010 in Announcements, Courts, Culture, Flip, Gender, Government, Health Care, Law, leadership, Mental health, Ohio, Politics, Republicans, Sexism, Social Issues, Ted Strickland, Women | 9 Comments
U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton gave a speech yesterday to commemorate the 15th Anniversary of the first International Conference on Population and Development. That gathering included a total of thousands of delegates from 179 countries.
You can watch the entire presentation here on CSPAN-2 (and it includes remarks by the first ever Ambassador-at-Large for Global Women’s Issues, Melanne Verveer as well as Secretary Clinton’s remarks) or the 22 minute version with just the Secretary’s remarks, courtesy of RHRealityCheck’s coverage of the event. I’ve yet to see a transcription or text of the speech, but here is a near live-blog from The Frisky with quotes for those who, like me, really like to see the remarks in writing.
The first ICPD occurred in Cairo in 1994 and set up goals to be reached in 20 years. Clinton reviewed where we stand in regard to the progress the Cairo gathering envisioned and what must be done to accomplish the goals set 15 years ago.
By Jill Miller Zimon at 11:24 am January 9th, 2010 in BlogHer, Civil Rights, Culture, Government, Hillary Clinton, Illness, leadership, Politics, Sexism, Social Issues, war, Women, Youth | Comments Off